Everyone has a few confidence problems, whether pertaining to sex, dating, marriage or something else. There are things that we would like to change about ourselves, things that we are sure must be glaringly obvious to members of the opposite sex. So how can we overcome sexual self confidence issues, and how can weknow if we are obviously intimidated? My issue was always with first sexual experiences. Anytime I knew that I would be having sex with a woman for the first time, I would experience the sweaty palms and racing pulseof a teenage boy on his first date, which was, to say the least, embarrassing. Once that first sexual encounter was over, however, I would regain my sexual self confidence and move on. Now I don’t have to worry about that anymore, since I have found the only woman Iwill ever have sex with again, but over the course of our marriage, other self confidence issues havecropped up, and I’ve had to deal with them just like I’ve dealt withothers. In most cases, sexual self confidence issues are based on the unknown, because thatis all we really fear. When we have no idea how someone will reactto the things we do, anxiety runs rampant and we aren’t calmed until it’s over. Here are a few tips that might help you to overcome self confidence issues: 1. Know that others feel the same way. Whatever sexual self confidence issue mightplague your mind, please know that someone else has experienced it before. Whether it be physical or psychological, othermen and women have worried about the same things, which means that you are by no means alone. 2. Be open about it. I have had very few baddating experiences, and all the women I’ve been with have been open, honest, caring individuals. Had I told them about my insecurities before we had sex, they probablywould have done whatever they could tomake me feel better. Ifyou are unable to be open about sexual selfconfidence issues with your partner, then chances are you’ve chosen the wrong one. 3. Give yourself a break. When you feel overwhelmed by sexualinsecurity, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Berating yourself for your lack of sexual confidence will only serve to makeyou more anxious. Instead, come to termswith the issue and work through it. If you have a great sexual partner, he or she will help.